The 10 Best Date Movies (Part 1)
There are lots of great non-traditional date ideas out there, some of which I’ve even covered on this blog. But if you feel like going old-school and staying in, the movie night is hard to beat as a low-key, at-home, enjoyable date.
Being a movie (and dating) buff, I proudly present my pick for The 10 Best Date Movies of Recent Time (Part 1).
10. Stardust
Logline:
A boy ventures outside his village to find a fallen star (in the form of a semi-magical woman) in what starts as an attempt to gain the affections of his lady-love.
Overview:
Bordering on being a children’s movie, Stardust might seem like an unlikely pick for a list of date night movies, but a more-than-cursory inspection it has all the elements of a great date flick. At it’s core, it’s a cutesy fantasy movie that doesn’t take itself too seriously. The plot is relatively simple, meaning you can turn your attention to other things like conversing, or…well, you get the idea.
Recommended if:
This falls under the category of movies that are better if you have a hi-def TV/blu-ray player. Bonus points for having a surround sound system. A good chunk of the impact of the movie comes from the spectacular visuals and booming audio.
9. Sleepy Hollow
Logline:
Johnny Depp is Inspector Ichabod Crane, who comes to town of Sleepy Hollow to investigate a grisly series of seemingly other-worldly murders in Tim Burton’s take on this classic legend.
Overview:
Another visually appealing film, Sleepy Hollow makes a surprisingly good date movie. Just creepy enough to provide a few opportunities for your date to cozy next to you for comfort, but not so creepy as to completely destroy the mood (and your chances of getting laid). Also, Christopher Walken plays the headless horseman (who incidentally, in some scenes, has a head). Need I say more?
Recommended if:
If your date doesn’t like “scary” movies (because they scare her), this can be a good way to get that “scary movie” effect without actually scaring her so much she won’t come out from under the covers.
Avoid if:
If your date has a hard time suspending her disbelief, or if it’s light outside. The plot is a little thin–even within it’s own universe–and the movie’s atmosphere is best highlighted by dark (and preferably stormy) weather.
8. Casino Royale
Logline:
Daniel Craig stars in this reboot of the classic franchise full of some of the best special effects, stunts, and villains in the history of the Bond franchise.
Overview:
Casino Royale is 2 hours of pure date movie magic: good-looking people doing interesting things–in style. Daniel Craig provides eye candy for the ladies (to quote a friend of mine, he is “so fine,”), and his female counterpart provides plenty of sexual tension that will last during the movie and–if you play your cards right–beyond. What’s more, Casino Royale sports a pretty decent plot for a Bond movie, and the Big Bad, Le Chiffre, might just be one of the best Bond villains to date.
Recommended if:
If your date can appreciate/enjoy a decent action flick–or better yet, if she likes a decent action flick–then this is the one to beat on date night. Like Stardust, this one is enhanced greatly by a big screen, HD TV and surround sound.
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If you have a hot date today, tomorrow, or any time in the near future, those three films will be plenty to get you started. Tune in tomorrow for movies 6 through 4 in: The 10 Best Date Movies of Recent Time (Part 2)!
On Bullshit
Which statement is correct?
(1) Never pay for a woman’s dinner! Doing so supplicates you to her, and makes you appear as if you feel you have to “pay” her for the privilege of her time.
Or
(2) Always pay for a woman’s dinner! Paying for a woman’s meal can be a great way to enter the role of “provider.” Doing so shows her you have resources to care for her, and that you are the kind of man who takes care of people close to him.
Go ahead, take a minute. Think about it.
The correct answer is: neither…and both. But this post isn’t about whether or not you should pay for a woman’s dinner. This post is about bullshit.
The problem with the above two statements is that while neither one is completely correct or incorrect, on their own either sentence could be rather convincing. I could literally take either of those two sentences, tell them to a client, and have the client completely convinced that I was correct. Nothing inherent to either of those statements rings false, despite the fact that they are complete linguistic and ideological opposites. It’s only in looking at them side-by-side that we realize something’s not quite right. And that, my friends, is the problem with freedom of speech.
You see, freedom of speech is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it prevents ideas from being censored because they don’t agree with the political or religious mores of the time, or for any other similarly arbitrary reason. That results in progress. That’s the good edge. On the other hand, it prevents statements from being censored based on truthfulness or accuracy. That results in bullshit. That’s the bad edge.
Of course, even if we wanted to, we couldn’t censor information based on truthfulness or accuracy. Not really. Ultimately we would not be able to escape the question of who decides what constitutes truthfulness or accuracy. And because answering that question (fairly) is about as impossible as anything can be in this world, we’re stuck with an imperfect system of free speech that simultaneously provides for giant leaps forwards and backwards in the collective human conscious.
By now you may be wondering what this has to do with dating. The answer is a quiet and sheepish “…nothing.” But it has everything to do with learning. And to get better at dating you have to learn, so in a six-degrees-of-separation-from-Kevin-Bacon kind of way, it has something to do with dating after all.
The point, my friends, is this: you must endeavor to approach everything you see, hear, or read with what you may have heard your high school English teacher refer to as your “critical thinking brain.” There is a lot of bullshit and misinformation out there. It’s your job as someone seeking to grow and learn to sift through it.
So my challenge to you is this: the next time someone gives you advice (even if that someone is me) that sounds good rhetorically, imagine if they had said the exact opposite. You’ll be surprised at how often what you come up with will make as much–if not more–sense as the original statement itself.
How to Get Dumped (In Style), Part II
Last time we covered the three primary colors of getting dumped. To review, they are:
- I’m Breaking Up With You (Period)
- I’m Breaking Up With You (…Unless you change)
- I’m Breaking Up With You (…Because I have cold feet)
In this installment, we’ll cover how to handle the actual event of getting dumped.
(Photo courtesy of CarbonNYC on Flickr. Original photo found here.)
No doubt getting dumped can be a fairly emotional process. And depending on your exact circumstances you might feel compelled to even yell or hurl insults at your freshly former partner. But by reining in your emotions and taking the time to have a rational conversation, you can significantly reduce the long-term impact a breakup can have on your emotional state.
Your goal during the breakup conversation is to ascertain as accurately as possible the main type of breakup you’re being subjected to.
Ask questions. Find out how long she’s been feeling the way she’s been feeling. Find out if there’s something you’ve started doing (or been doing all along) that’s caused her to snap. Even if she doesn’t know exactly how to phrase her feelings (she probably won’t come right out and say: “I’m still attracted to you and want to be with you, but you do certain things that make it difficult for me to enjoy the relationship,”), so it’ll probably be up to you to ferret out how she feels.
You might be wondering: why do I care what this woman’s reasons are? Why should I remain calm when she’s dumping me? Why can’t I tell her off?
Well there’s nothing that says you can’t. But you probably shouldn’t. I’m operating under a few assumptions here. The first is that you still care about this woman. (If you don’t, take my buddy’s advice: as soon as you realize the relationship is ending, beat her to it and send her a text that says: “It’s over, bitch,” and never talk to her again. What it lacks in tact it makes up for in humor.) Secondly, I’ll assume that it’s very likely you’ll be brooding about your breakup long after the actual conversation is over.
By keeping your cool and navigating the conversation properly, you can be sure that there’s nothing you could have said or done to have resuscitated the relationship. Even worse, you might be wondering if there’s something you can still do. False hope and unanswered questions can keep you analyzing and over-analyzing the past when you should be looking to the future. Contrarily, when it comes time to end your pity party or keep brooding, you’ll find that having that closure–the knowledge that it’s definitely over–ends up counting for a lot.
Ultimately, that’s why any of this matters. Getting dumped (in style)–or not–has to do with two things, and two things only: (1) salvaging the relationship (if you can–and if you want to), and (2) if you can’t salvage it, moving on to bigger and better things as quickly as possible.
As a cautionary note, I would urge you strongly against finding false hope where there isn’t any. Don’t convince yourself a woman doesn’t really want to break up with you, or that she’s just having cold feet or temporarily mad if it’s not true. Don’t focus on trying to fix a relationship that can’t be fixed–focus on moving past it.
That’s all for today folks. Be sure to tune in to the next installment: “How to Get Dumped (In Style), Part III: Life After Death.” (Get it! Life after death! Like being in a relationship is like death! What no laugh? Is this thing on? …Fine.)
How to Get Dumped (In Style), Part I
Let’s start the end of this week (which really, if you think about it, is the pre-beginning of next week) off right, with the first of a three-part series of articles on How to Get Dumped (In Style).
First, a little bit of background information. I usually don’t blab on about my own romantic interests or exploits unless I think it will be interesting and useful to you, the reader. This isn’t a diary after all. But suffice it to say I had been non-seriously been seeing a girl for a few months, kicked it up to serious a couple months ago, and (let’s not sugar-coat it here) got dumped maybe a week or two ago. That said, I’ve found that just as there is a right and wrong way to compliment a girl, there is a right and wrong way to get dumped by a girl. Go figure.
Before we begin, I will concede the the best way to get dumped is probably to avoid getting dumped at all. And I know any Community boys who might read this are bound to think: “See, that’s why you should never do the whole ‘relationship’ thing–it ends!” My well-crafted counter to that? Whaddaya gonna do? Some of us like it. Relationships don’t always work out, and sometimes when they fail, they fail spectacularly. That’s life. If you want to walk, you’ve gotta be willing to fall, and when you fall, you might as well do it in style. That’s what this article is about.
The first part of getting dumped (in style), is to understand the three “primary colors” of the phrase “I’m breaking up with you,” so that you can (as quickly as possible) identify exactly what she means. Note: I call these three sub-meanings “primary colors” because just like (you guessed it!) the primary colors, they can be mixed in any number of ways to form a unique and separate entity.
The Three Primary Colors of “I’m Breaking Up With You”
- I’m breaking up with you. Period.
This is the most straight-forward of the three. It means pretty much exactly what it says. Those tempted to add unnecessary words to otherwise perfectly succinct phrases might translate this as: “I’m breaking up with you. There’s nothing you can do to change my mind. I am no longer attracted to you.” And that’s pretty much the size of it. This is almost always caused be the other person truly and legitimately losing attraction for you. Like David D says, “Attraction is not a choice.”
- I’m breaking up with you…(unless you change).
This one is (to make a rather glum and dramatic parallel) like a “suicidal gesture” (aka: “cry for help”). The person saying this may very well wish to stay with you, but odds are you’re doing something (or a lot of things) that are getting under their skin and this is the best way they can come up with to bring it to your attention. Obviously, this is usually reserved for pretty serious offenses. Usually this one comes from the person feeling like they’re “giving everything” in the relationship, and not getting anything back. You can salvage this situation, but it will probably require one hell of an un-fun conversation. - I’m breaking up with you…(because I have cold feet!)
I can only guess as to why human beings do this, but for whatever reason, we get cold feet. For the purposes of a technical definition, let’s go ahead and call cold feet “the onset of any sudden (and temporary) loss of attraction without a basis in reality.” In other words: you’re lying in bed next to somebody that 364 out of 365 days in the year you’re crazy about, but all of the sudden you have no idea why you’re with them, what you have in common, or why you haven’t ditched them for higher ground yet. Everyone gets cold feet no matter how much they like someone or how long they’re with them, but they usually don’t actually say anything about it…usually. But sometimes (someeetimes) they do. Usually that’s a result of the person having other issues as well, but I’ve heard tell of people “ending a relationship” on Monday out of the blue, only to come back on Tuesday repentant and confused by their own actions. It’s a mad mad mad world, folks.
If you honestly (and I mean honestly) can’t think of a reason you’re being dumped, and especially if the person seems emotionally on tilt and flighty when they’re giving you your walking papers, you’re probably a victim (at least in part) of cold feet. If this is the case, provided you don’t react mega-poorly, your honey will probably come a-runin’ back by the end of the week.
Remember, relationships (and consequentially, breakups) are complicated. Chances are it’s more than just one thing. But those, my friends, are the primary colors of breakups, and all other breakups are a mix of those colors. Tune in next time for “How To Get Dumped (In Style), Part II: How to React Like a Champion (Albeit, a Champion Who’s Getting Dumped on His Ass).
My Predictions for the Future
Greetings from a Starbucks in a fairly shady part of San Jose readers!
People suck at predicting the future. To beat a horse that was beaten to death long before I was born, weathermen can’t barely predict the weather beyond the accuracy of the coin toss (and weather prediction is, as future prediction methodology goes, fairly science-y). That said, I am a person. Therefore, the transitive property holds that I too suck at predicting the future. But I’ll tell you the same thing I told my parents when they told me I sucked at comedy: I’ve never let sucking stop me before, and I’m not about to let it stop me now. So here we go:
I’ve been getting what can only be described as a surprising amount of e-mails asking me (and I’m quoting from one particularly colorful reader here) “WTF is going on?!” with my posting frequency. Said reader goes on to point out that I promised more (and more frequent) updates, and since that promise, I haven’t really delivered.
Good point angry reader. You’ve got me by the short-and-curlys on that one.
So, bearing in mind that predicting the future is very difficult, I am going to go ahead and say this, here and now: From this day forth, MDD (that’s my super cool self-referential acronym I created) will be updated–are you ready for it?–no less than twice a week.
That might not be much, but it’s progress people. And I can hold myself to it. And, to be honest, it is my secret dream that I will eventually get up to 3-5 times a week. But don’t hold your breath on that one, and do consider the source (bear in mind that this is coming from someone who leaves his ironing board in the middle of his hall for weeks after ironing one shirt).
Finally, there are enough articles up now (and ideally more will be being added ever-more-rapidly) to where an updated website interface seems prudent, to allow for easier access to old (but still relevant) articles. So don’t be surprised if you see a brand new MDD in the next month or two.
All that said, happy reading and thanks (I think?) for the harassing e-mails. Keep ‘em coming!
Tactic Tuesday: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell
Ladies and gentlemen (okay, who are we kidding: mostly gentlemen) it’s yet another Tactic Tuesday, the day where I enlighten you with theoretically (but rarely practically) short tactical tidbits to help you in your dating and social life.
Today’s Tactic Tuesday is about how to ask a woman (or not) on a date. But first, a quick quiz: How many times have you asked a woman out on a date? Go ahead, take minute: think about it.
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If you answered “more than zero,” then you have a problem. That’s right, it was a trick question! (What can I say? I’m just crafty like that.) Lord knows I’m not the biggest fan of the word “date”–and all the messy associations it leads to–but that’s not what makes it a trick question. The problem word in this case, is “asked.”
With very few exceptions, you should never ask a woman if she wants to hang out, or go on a date, etc. …But you shouldn’t tell them either.
The problem with asking a woman on a date is quite simple: it implies that she might not want to go. By the time you’re setting up your date, the question of whether or not she wants to go should be answered–affirmatively–in your head.
The problem with telling a woman you’re going on a date (e.g., saying: “We’re going to get coffee on Friday,” etc) is that she might physically be unable to go–that is, she might have unbreakable plans. If she is unable to go, then she will be forced to say no. That puts you in an awkward situation. You’re compromising your position as the leader of the interaction, and you’re getting her into a rather undesirable pattern of telling you “no.”
Fortunately there is a middle ground to be found in between asking and telling: suggesting. Suggesting is vastly superior to asking someone on a date, and carries none of the risk of telling someone you’re doing something. Suggesting, in this context, looks like this: “Let’s get coffee on Friday.” With this construction, you’re leaving no room for the idea that she doesn’t want to go, and if she has to decline, you can much more easily redirect your invitation without losing face.
Again the key here is that you want to be guiding the interactions. Bear in mind that in order to do this effectively you need to be able to have a good plan in the first place. (Date planning is a bit beyond the scope of this article, but go ahead and check out this article if you need some tips.)
Finally, suggesting doesn’t just relate to where to go, but when to go. Never, under any circumstances, should you ask a woman when to do something. Asking when she wants to go sends a worse message even than asking if she wants to go. While asking if she wants to go only implies you understand she might not want to, asking when she wants to go implies that your schedule is wide open, or at the very least that you are willing to adjust your schedule to meet hers. Whereas in the one case you telegraph a small amount of insecurity, in the other you telegraph a neediness and a lack of a normal social life, which is, in a word, bad.
So just remember: don’t ask, don’t tell–suggest!
Just Do It (Part II)
It might be a stretch to call Aristotle the world’s first “life coach” (or dating coach, for that matter), even still, there’s a oft-used quote of his that dominates both arenas and rightfully so: “You are what you repeatedly do; excellence therefore, is not an act, but a habit.”
It’s easy to brush this quote off as being an observation rather than an instruction–let alone one that could apply to dating or your social life. But the idea he expresses is actually very practical. He’s not just saying: “See, look! Excellent people are excellent all the time, not just once here or there!” What he’s saying is: “If you want to be excellent, you have to start now, and do whatever it is you want to do as a matter of habit.”
The point here being that you can’t just be good at something once. You can’t just give a great speech in front of your boss, or for that matter, do well with one woman. Excellence doesn’t work that way. It’s not a switch you can turn on or off at your convenience.
In fact, I have my own version of the saying, that takes it a step further: You are, inescapably, what you do all the time. The idea being that if you’re good at giving speeches, not only will you be able to give a good individual speech, but you won’t not be able to give a good individual speech (usually).
The bottom line for your social life is this: you can’t just stay in every night and go out once in a while and expect to see results–no matter how many books on dating or socializing or seduction you may have read. You have to make the decision that either you will be a social person or not. There is very little room for middle ground.
Now go out and have fun and getchya game on–consider it practice. ;D
Good luck!
Tactic Tuesday (on Monday!): Silence is Golden
It’s Monday! And is there a better day to start catching up on three months worth of Tactic Tuesdays? I think not!
Today’s post is about silence. Believe it or not, silence can be one of the most potent tools you will ever put in your bag of dating tricks. There are two major reasons for this that I will discuss below, with the understanding that this is merely an introduction, not a comprehensive guide (I really could talk all day about silence).
A huge chunk of playing the dating game (well) lies in the art of effectively managing your communication. But whenever you say something–anything–you are communicating much more than the words in your sentence. Your tone can communicate your mood or how confident you are, and the speed of your reply (especially with phones and texts) can give away how desperate you are. Hell, the mere fact that you respond to somebody communicates (1) you still want to talk to the person you’re talking to and (2) you’re alive.
So the first major rule of silence is this: employ silence when communicating would compromise the message you want to convey, or would communicate a message you don’t want to convey.
Example: You’ve just starting seeing a woman, and you’ve had your first date. It went well enough, but you could tell that she was taking your attraction for granted or acting a little bit too much as though she is the catch and you are lucky to be seeing her. You could contact her and “perform” for her to remind her how attractive you are (i.e., go through all your demonstrations of higher value, make her laugh/be cocky funny, or whatever it was that got you the date in the first place). But because at this point you’ve already gone on a date and it’s gone well, you’ve got her on the hook enough to where she will be expecting a call. Although calling would not be an out-and-out blunder, a period of silence (for 5 or so days at the most, nothing drastic) would be the preferred strategy. By the fifth day, she’ll begin wondering what she did wrong, why you’re not attracted to her, etc, and your call will be much better received.
Secondly, silence should be maintained any time you don’t have anything to say. Far too often do I see men attempt to talk either (1) to fill the silence, or (2) because they really like the woman they’re seeing and they just want to talk to the girl–regardless of the subject or quality of conversation. As a general rule, run everything you say (and every response you give) through this test: “Am I saying this because it is genuinely interesting/genuinely adds value to the conversation, or am I saying this just to make some noise?” This makes the second major rule of silence equivalent to the old proverb: “Do not speak unless you can improve the silence.”
Example: You are having dinner with a woman and she says she’s from Los Angeles. At this point almost every man I know would feel compelled to say: “Oh, LA, that’s exciting,” or, “That’s nice,” or, if they’re in really bad need of help “Nice, LA, the big ci-tay. Home of Hollyweird. Hahaha.” But here’s the thing: none of those responses (or any of the countless variations on that theme) add any value to the conversation or offer any original thought. They are knee-jerk responses designed to stave off awkwardness and keep the conversation going. They represent a defensive kind of game. The correct response is simply to keep smiling, acknowledge the comment with a head nod, and keep eating until she says something worth commenting on.
(Note: obviously, you can’t employ this EVERY TIME or you will come off as boring and as a poor conversationalist. The example above is not to give you the idea that you should ignore every conversation starter she brings up that isn’t wildly entertaining, but simply to point out that if you don’t have something to say, you don’t have to say anything. The preferred solution to the above example, of course, (outside the context of silence) is to use the fact that she is from LA to launch into a story that is tangentially related–either about a trip you took to LA, a time you lived in LA or another big city, a friend you have in LA, etc. If that fails, you can feel free to disregard her LA comment and introduce an interesting topic of your own–if you have one. The above example applies to cases in which you do not have anything to say at the exact moment.)
Well there you go, folks, 754 words on the benefits of silence for what is currently but perhaps not for long the most ironic Tactic Tuesday yet.
Greetings Readers!
Well after a four month absence, what can really be said? Lots, of course!
First, I should say that I was all but certain before I stopped posting I had uploaded one final post in which I explained that I would be taking three to six months off to work on my book, although I look back now, and see that I did not–oops! (You see, while for you, the beloved reader, reading the blog and then getting to read a book might not feel overly redundant–because there is different/expounded information in each–for me, the writer, it seemed somewhat silly to split my time between writing and, well, more writing.) That explains why after a while pretty much every other e-mail I was getting was asking me when new posts would be coming, but c’est la vive.
The bottom line? For the last three months or so, I’ve been frenetically working on a book for you all (and others). (I call it a “book” for lack of a better term–nobody has bought the rights to publish it, and I imagine that at the time of its completion I will simply go the low-cost rout of vanity publishing it as an e-book as many people are wont to do these days, but that’s neither here nor there.) I had it almost done and then: BOOM! I realized I hated it, that it wasn’t really authentic Matty D, and that I was worrying more about coming across as a knowledgeable, likable person than getting the information out there, as coherently distilled as possible (something I must be especially careful to avoid, bearing in mind that that very issue is one of my major gripes with a lot of the so-called “gurus” out there today). So I began what they call in the screenwriting biz a “page one” (i.e., you dump everything except the idea and start again from page one) and I’ve finally finished an outline and begun work on something I”m really quite proud of that I’m sure you will all enjoy and take a lot out of.
I’ll be posting a sample chapter soon, but for now, I’ll explain the main idea, how I’ll present the information, and why I feel so strongly about writing the book the way I want to write it.
I was watching a DVD set called “Richard Bandler: 30 Years of NLP,” and growing increasingly frustrated. I had never really studied NLP (I realize it’s a staple for the community boys, but I’d never run into a problem in my dating life and thought: you know what I’m missing? Hypnosis!). I figured a DVD set called “30 Years of NLP” made by one of the guys who invented NLP would be a pretty good place to start. I sat down with a legal pad and a pen and played the DVD (five minutes into the first DVD, Bandler insists students not take notes, but I was determined to try anyway because I’m just a rebel like that). My frustration began when I noticed I was already three hours deep into the DVDs, and hadn’t taken a single note.
That I didn’t have a single not on my legal pad was the result of no lack of trying. I had been ultra-observant, waiting for a piece of concrete information–any piece of concrete information–to write down. Yet three hours in all I had heard so far were a lot of (very likely apocryphal) anecdotes, and constant reminders (given, of course, by Bandler) that Bandler was the best hypnotist in the world and put all psychiatrists to shame. At no point, however, did Bandler list any concrete steps or actions to take to learn NLP.
Now, the point of this post isn’t to attempt to discredit or devalue Bandler or his teachings (although I can’t help but be off-put by the fact that he is fat–so am I, but I don’t claim to be able to cure any bad habit in 15 minutes–and, admittedly, running a google search with the words “Bandler,” “prostitute,” and “murder” will yield some very interesting results). The point of this post, rather, is to address a gaping flaw with several of the instructional DVDs, books, and audio programs on the market today (both in dating, and general self-help), and that is: a lack of specificity when it comes to concrete steps a person can take to achieve a purported goal.
How many times have you bought a book with a title like “Be Your Most Fully Actualized Self NOW” only to find that nowhere in its 250+ pages does it mention how to become fully self actualized, or even what that means? I find generally, that buying and reading such a book tends to leave me only with the vague feeling that becoming full self-actualized is a desirable goal, if I only I could figure out what it meant and how to do it.
So my bottom line is this post is to offer a method of teaching that I will use any time I promise to teach something, whether it’s getting a phone number or actualizing yourself (it occurs to me as I write this that “self-actualization” would make a great euphemism for “masturbation”). The method is a simple four (occasionally five) step process that goes like this:
- State and define the learning goal. (i.e., “Learn to get a phone number.”)
- Explain the theory behind the process.
- Give a list of steps or actions to take, in order.
- Provide a real world example, with annotations and commentary.
- (Optional) Provide a sample problem, observe the student’s response, and provide feedback.
Now, not everything worth saying will fit into this model. And this is not to say that from now on you will be free from my self-indulgent rambling commentary. Rather, this is to say that any self-indulgent, rambling commentary will be provided in addition to rather than in stead of this format, when dealing with “how to” subject matter. This will ensure that the main point of any subject always gets addressed in a clear and accessible fashion.
I’ve done a lot of thinking, and I honestly believe that if anyone really possesses knowledge on a subject, they can condense it into this form, and frankly, I’d love to see some other people (paging “Dr.” Bandler) take up the habit as well.
Well folks, it’s been great talkin’ to ya, and I’m looking forward to doing it again real soon. Till then!
Tactic Tuesday: Just Do It!
It’s been a tragically long time since my last post, but there’s a good reason for that that blends perfectly with this week’s Tactic Tuesday: I have been doing things.
Yes, this holiest of Tactic Tuesdays I have very simple advice for you, that comes in two parts:
Part I: Do things!
Part II: Follow in the footsteps of the eminent Dwight Schrute: “Before I do something, I think to myself Would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, then I do not do that thing.”
Basically, if you think to yourself Should I do something? and it passes the Schrute test above, then do it. Too many people wander through life wondering when things will happen to them. The majority of life events are reactions to energy you put out. So get crackin’.
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