This Tuesday I’m going to get back to the heart of what I wanted Tactic Tuesday to be all about: an insanely short (and easy for me to write and post) blurb containing a tactic you can add to your library without having to wade through my somewhat ponderous writing style. (For those of you who like the ponderous writing style, fear not! You’ll still get that! …Just not on Tuesdays.)
Without further ado, I present: Tactic Tuesday!
If you spend much time around women (relatives, friends, girlfriends, whatever) then you’ve undoubtedly heard something like “Oh my GOD, I’m so fat!” Or “I cannot believe how TERRIFYING I look right now; I’m so UGLY.”
The conventional wisdom is to offer assurances that the woman saying these things is in fact not fat or ugly. WRONG.
That conversation usually goes something like this:
Her: “Oh my God, I’m so FAT!”
You: No you’re not! You’re beautiful! You’re perfect!
Her: “No! You’re just saying that! I’m a beast!”
You: “No you’re not a beast! You’re a goddess!”
Her: (after a few more back and forths) Sigh…well…you’re sweet to say so. Thanks.
This conversation is not fun. It doesn’t demonstrate any good qualities about you.
The correct response to “Oh my God, I’m so FAT!” is to say: “Well, I didn’t want to say anything, but…you are getting pretty out of control.” You can then riff by saying something along the lines of “In fact, since you brought it up, when we walk out of here, could you keep maybe like a half-block distance between us? After all, I have a reputation.”
Go nuts with it. Give her a really hard time about it (with a smile). This kind of back and forth is much more interesting than the compliment fishing example above; she’ll thank you for it.
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